/BYU Football: Kalani Sita and her father celebrate Father’s Day every day

BYU Football: Kalani Sita and her father celebrate Father’s Day every day

Provo – BYU football coach Kalani Sita and her father Thomas “Tom” Sita will not be exchanged gifts on Father’s Day this year. This is nothing new. The inseparable pair “never grew up in favor of gifts,” Kalani told Sita on Friday.

Instead, “his gift to me is that we always keep in touch and hang out,” Kalani said. “It simply came to our notice then. Believe me, he has a lot of bonds. … He is the best dressed person I know. He has a whole closet. “

And a full heart.

Tom said the best gift his children could give him was a college degree. She was the first of 14 children to graduate, and Kalani was the granddaughter of 128 grandchildren in a college graduating family.

Tom said, “College degree is a Father’s Day gift to me every day.”

Father and son have formed an unbroken bond since the son was a small child. They are as tough as fathers and sons can get. Rarely can a day go by that Tom doesn’t sway in Kalani’s office in Provo, or watch a football practice in Kalani’s four seasons coaching the Cougars.

“He certainly inspired me to be a better father. And that usually means spending time with your kids and I try my best. He made me really love my kids. The way he is with my kids, I hope he will be with my grandchildren one day. ”- BYU football coach Kalani Sita

Often, Tom names after working shifts as director of vocational rehabilitation at Utah State Hospital.

Ask anyone involved with BYU football. Tom is almost always around – even at games away from Lavelle Edwards Stadium, on firefighters and busy talking. He estimates that he has seen Kalani four to seven times a week and knows that he writes his son’s text or speaks to him on the telephone at least once a day.

“I don’t always support him, I support the coaches and the players,” said Tom. “I try to do the same thing with my other kids.”

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  • BYU football coach Kalani Sita, right, and her father Tom.

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  • Patti Edwards BIU head football coach Kalani Sita talks to family with father Edward as friends gather for the cemetery of former BIU football coach Lavel Edwards on Saturday, on, 201 at the former East Lawn Memorial Hills cemetery.

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  • BIU head football coach Kalani Sita has been appointed along with the rest of the coaching staff during the half-hour of the men’s basketball matchup with Perpardin at the Provo Marriott Center on Saturday, January 30, 201 Pro.

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  • Utah assistant coach Kalani Sita walked in Salt Lake City on November 12, 2005. After joining Gary Anderson’s staff in Oregon State in 2006, he was promoted to defense coordinator and held that position until 2014. In December 2015, he was appointed head coach at BYU.

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  • BYU football coach Kalani Sita, right, and her father Tom.

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“He certainly inspired me to be a better father,” says Kalani, who has three children with his wife, Timberly. “And that usually means spending time with your kids and I try my best. He made me really love my kids. The way he is with my kids is that I hope to be with my grandchildren one day. “

Kalani has three younger siblings: Tokase, Pamroz and TJ, who were close to him and his father. When his parents divorced at the age of 6, he was mostly raised by his father, and the family lived in Lai, Hawaii, before the family finally moved to Provo.

“He’s one of my best friends,” Kalani told Kalani, often assigned to look after his siblings while working. “When he grew up he actually treated me as if I were an adult and talked to me as if I were an adult. It was different. He treated me almost like a peer. ”

When the family moved to the St. Louis, Missouri area when Callahan was a teenager and he graduated from Kirkwood High, he played football for BYU after a mission to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in Oakland, California.

“I’ve been involved in all my children’s lives from elementary school to junior high school to college, so getting involved with all of my kids’ work and work is nothing new to me,” said Tom, adding that the subject he has embraced is part of their sports and activities. , Their scouting work, their church service – everything part

“I know he knows a lot about coaching and has done well, but I think I need to get involved because of our relationship,” Tom said. “Relationships have a lot to do with what is good in life.”

This one rock is hard.

“I’m probably the guy I talk to the most about advice on everything,” Kalani said. “Ever since I was little, I think I was one of those kids who asked a lot of questions and he always gave me valid, honest answers. I don’t think it ever stopped. “

When Kalani coached rival Utah for 10 years, Tom was also a regular there. He rarely missed a Utah game, and coach Kyle Whittingham often saw Tom sit on a charter flight for the Games of Our Hour.

Tom Sita is shown here on November 14, 2008, when his son Kalani was coaching at the University of Utah ug August Miller, Desert News

Even the father-son combo worked together, and Kalani remembers.

“My father trained me,” said Kalani, a high-ranking linebacker and fullback at the high school, before being coached by then-coach Lavel Edwards at BIU. “I remember going to BYU after training with my dad in high school and it was easy for me to move to a college workout as a new world.”

Tom said one of the great features of Kalani is that he cares for everyone from star players to video guys, coaches, and even the media. Care friends say the social distance during the epidemic was harsh on Kalani, who likes to hug people.

After committing to Edwards, he cared so much about the coaches he was hiring that he called each of them separately to find out if he was coming and thanked him for hiring them.

“He won’t take advantage of people,” Tom said. “It’s a quality he has and I’ve seen it with his siblings and teammates since he was very young. When things go well, he always gives credit to other people. And if something goes wrong, he takes the blame.”

The two have been told that they watch sports events together – when the epidemic doesn’t happen – and they do push-ups, sit-ups, dumbbell curls or anything physical during the ad.

Kalani said at 201, “The way I see it, there are two ways to do things that are considered work,” Kalani said, “You can take the hard work you’re going to do and kill it and get it done in an hour. And that’s right. Yes. Or you can play some music and invite your family and enjoy it and have fun. That’s how I like to do things. “”

And always, always, by his father’s side.